01/06/2008: "Fantasy vs. Reality"

People talk of dreams and they talk of reality. Often cliche's will suggest that it is always important to never let go of our dreams. But there is a major conflict between these two terms. Dreams or the fantasy world are not reality, and reality is not our dreams. We go through the ups and downs of a day and a roller coaster of a life and yet we always hope and dream of doing better than we are now. Whether we are looking for financial improvements or perhaps hoping to get married or have children. I wouldn't argue that we our a race that is always looking to improve or push forward in areas of technology, but on the personal level of our own growth, the feelings aren't necessarily the same.

We've all done good and evil, wrong and right, and over time have learned things in many ways including trial and error. It's not just an issue of wanting to improve but one has to consider perhaps we are a greedy creature as well that always wants more than what they have and are never satisfied. The cup is either half empty or it's half full. It all comes down to your perception of things, but whether it's half empty or full, it could be filled higher is the point.

I wouldn't ever suggest someone to give up on dreams they have. Regardless of how far fetched they seem, everyone deserves the opportunity to chase down those dreams. While admittedly saying that I hope they can do it without hurting anyone else in the process of course. I mean you might want a lot of money, but I hope you don't rob a bank to get it. I think in a discussion of fantasy and reality one has to acknowledge the probability of certain things and see how possible they even are. Shooting for the stars is great, but it's a far fall down as well. There has to be some middle ground to all of this, a point where we can say, that is an achievable goal.

Fantasy is always going to be better than reality, no matter how good or bad things are for you right now. If you have goals in life, chase them, but don't sit around and wait for them. The dreamer who works for what they want is not really a dreamer, they just had an idea and acted on it. The dreamer who does nothing to achieve there goal has themselves to blame before anyone else. There are so many stories of under privileged kids that turned there lives into something remarkable, that these should be stories of hope for anyone whether small or large dreams.

So to recap in dealing with our dreams it's best to assess the possibility of success and then give effort based upon the results of small victories leading towards that goal. If you're making progress there is no reason to stop, keep going, as you have no idea how it will turn out. Yes, in the end you might lose, but at least you tried to make it a reality. Those who don't are unfortunately left with regret of not trying.

Dreams typically never just happen, they are worked for and executed.