03/19/2008: "Betrayal"

My message this week is betrayal. Surely we have all experienced this in some way, shape, or form, especially with our friends. When you tell them a secret and they go behind your back and tell them that secret or when they tell you that you will be there "best friend forever" but they let you down as soon as they find someone new. Take my word for it hurts. It hurts to be betrayed. This and more later in this message.

Betrayal is a form of deception. Originally, my topic today was going to be deception but I changed my mind seeing as because of the fact that I am experiencing betrayal now I would have better knowledge. Also, I would be able to better convey my feelings and emotion in this text. So the definition of betrayal is "to disappoint the hopes or expectations of; be disloyal to". Some ways to betray others do not always have emotional effects. For instance, a form of betrayal can be seen in mystery, adventure, and spy movies. It seems that there are always an antagonist character that is deceive and betrays the hero. Its a fact. But sometimes it can happen a little more close to home. It can be a friend that has leaned on your shoulder, that you have helped and nurtured for a while but then when it seems that they find a love interest or some other substitute they leave you out to dry. This is not cool beans!

When I am betrayed, I feel stupid or idiotic at first because I can't believe that I got myself in that situation. I can't believe that I was so blindsided by whatever it was to not notice something too good to be true. Putting that in different terms, I was so into being a good friend and believing that everything will be perfect that I didn't stop to think that this person has done it to others, why not me. Then I feel enraged. I feel anger towards that particular person for making me feel the roller-coaster of emotions that I am going to feel. After, I feel sad. Not particularly because that I have been betrayed but mostly because I feel stupid that I let myself get to that position. The last emotion I feel is, animosity. I truly dislike that person from that point on and begins the cold-shoulder treatment. It's probably a human instinct. Most all people use that treatment.

After betraying someone it takes a long time for that person to forgive you. You have put that person through so much unnecessary hurt. So to avoid all of that. Just don't betray anyone!